Dodging Friends, Decisions, and All the Feels

The title pretty much sums up my luteal phase. I’m deep in the woes of it, seriously considering moving to another country, changing my name, and shaving my head. Just a normal week.

I feel like I’ve been rethinking everything in my life lately. Maybe not everything, but definitely the big stuff.

“Am I happy with my current living situation?”

“Have I outgrown the city I’ve
called home for the last 10 years?”

“Is my career going anywhere?
Do I even like my job anymore?”

“Should I change careers?”
(which, let’s be real, feels laughable right now)

You get the gist. A never-ending cycle of doubts and questions spinning around in my head. And between you and me, I’ve felt this way for a couple of years now. Constantly weighing which big jump to take next in my life. And the thing is, I’m actually ready for something new! But why doesn’t that make the decision any easier? One minute I’m sure, the next I blink and two years have passed with zero moves made. I’ve always felt comfortable where I am, but lately I wonder if comfort has turned into complacency.

To be fair, these are some big decisions. Changing up my career, looking for a new apartment, maybe even moving to a new city. It feels like a lot to take on any one of them. So where does a girl even start? That was exactly the question I tried to answer on a Friday night while elbow-deep in a Costco-sized bag of SkinnyPop, binging season one of Shrinking.

In my sleuthing, I found three things I want to implement in an effort to gain some momentum:

1) Pick One & Lock It In

The most important part is deciding which goal you’re going to work toward and then starting the ground work. I get hung up on this step because of how “final” it feels. Like once I pick something, I have to commit to it forever, even if I change my mind. But something I’ve realized with this first steps is: this is actually how you figure out if it’s the right thing for you to pursue in the first place. For example, I want to buy a townhome! But considering I’d need thousands for a down payment and my card just declined at Taco Bell last week, that’s maybe not the best move for me right now. I’ll circle back in another 10 years 😅.

2) Make a Plan & Make a Move

Now that the decision making is out of the way, ain’t nothin’ to it but to do it! Here’s where you start breaking your goal down into smaller, achievable steps. This is where things start getting fun for me (I honestly just love to organize 🤷🏾‍♀️). I especially love this part because I can actually see the timeline and can visualize the game plan on making it happen. If you really want to get things moving, throw a deadline on each of the steps to really put it in turbo speed. Especially if you’re trying to finish something by a certain date!

3) Check In & Stick With It

Check in with yourself along the way. Are there any obstacles slowing you down? Are you still pursuing a goal that’s right for you? Sometimes life happens, and you have to pivot to focus on other things, and that’s never a bad thing. Finally, and possibly the most important part: you have to stick with it. Even if you fall off track or get distracted for a couple of years (outing myself here), it’s no biggie, just keep pushing forward. Good things take time. And don’t forget to celebrate the progress and small wins along the way. That’s what keeps you moving 💕.

Here’s hoping that a year from now I’ll be in my new apartment, job, or city, looking back on this and feeling happy that I finally decided to take the first step. But if I end up in the same place, I won’t beat myself up! I’ll just come back to this post and try again 😅 If you enjoyed this read, check out my other related blog posts!